So you got a date….!
Well done! You’ve finally overcome your anxiety and asked out your
crush. While that may have seemed like the tricky part, it’s time to
plan your first date. As the potential beginning of a fruitful
relationship, the pressure is on to have a great time.
Whether you met on an online dating website or through a mutual friend,
the key is to make a lasting impression. Here’s a list of tips to ensure
you have an awesome first date.
1. Pick the perfect location
Chances are you’ve already talked about your interests, especially if
you’re online. Now, it’s time to apply this information to your first
date ideas. When finding the perfect date location, it’s important to
choose a place that makes connecting
For instance, if you both like bowling, set up a date at the local
alley. This gives you guys an opportunity to showcase your personality
over a fun activity.
If you prefer a more intimate location, you can meet at a coffee shop.
This way, you’re still in a safe environment but there’s fewer
distractions, so you can get to know each other.
2. Spend enough time talking
Usually when people go on their first date, they spend little to no time
talking. They’re either watching a movie in a theater, dancing at a
club, or at a concert with loud speakers. By the time the date is over,
you may have had a great time, but how much did you get to know each
Your subsequent dates can be about having fun, but your first date
should involve a conversation. For all you know, you may not even like
talking to each other. A conversation on your first date usually
determines how well you’ll communicate in the future.
If you met your date on an online dating website, it’s a bit easier to
make conversation. Now, it’s time for the real deal. If you want to have
a great conversation but you’re a bit socially awkward, there are some
ways to find things to talk about.
For one, you can create a list of questions to ask each other. Studies
show question lists are one of the easiest ways to get to know someone
on a deeper level. In addition to asking engaging questions, a great
conversation involves give and take. If your date tells you a story that
you can relate to, listen and share a similar story.
In order to have a smooth conversation, you need to keep a clear mind.
Sure, a connection is hard to plan, but you can mentally prepare
yourself to keep calm throughout the date. When talking to your date, be
confident in what you’re saying. If you don’t know something, have the
courage to speak up and ask for some clarification.
Keep in mind, communication involves more than speech. Pay close
attention to body language. Body language tells you a lot about how well
things are going. Here are some common nonverbal behaviors to look out
Are you folding your arms? Folded arms are usually a sign of
discomfort or lack of interest. If you’re enjoying the conversation,
try leaning in a bit to appear fully engaged.
If you’re speaking and you realize your date’s arms are crossed or
they’re not fully facing you, change the subject. Maybe they’re
uncomfortable with the subject matter but don’t want to hurt your
Do you want to let them know you’re interested in what they’re
saying? Mirror their behavior. If they take a drink, take a drink.
When you have a great attraction to someone, you’re more likely to
imitate their behavior.
Are you fully facing each other? Studies show that you’re more
likely to face the direction you want to go. By facing each other,
it shows you’re exactly where you want to be. Also, make eye contact
so they know they have your undivided attention.
3. Wear the right outfit
What you wear helps define who you are.
Therefore, you must wear
something that makes you look your best and feel confident. Your outfit
should also choose an outfit that makes sense for the date. For
instance, if you’re going to a nice restaurant, your favorite jeans and
t-shirt may need to sit this one out.
Whatever you decide to wear, make sure you’re comfortable. Six inch
heels may make your legs look amazing, but are they the best footwear
for a moonlit walk in the park? Probably not.
4. Let go of relationship expectations
Remember, this is your first date, so avoid coming on too strong.
There’s a big difference between optimism and having relationship
expectations. Going in with the intention of making this your life
partner adds pressure for both parties. You’re also less likely to make
a genuine connection.
On the other hand, many people don’t make it past the first date because
they go in with preconceived notions.
Both you and your date are
probably nervous about meeting for the first time, so instead of
assuming the date will go wrong, go with the flow.
Sometimes, the reason you struggle to meet someone has nothing to do
with them. Sure, it’s okay to have preferences, but be aware of when
you’re being excessive.
Many people fall victim to letting someone go
because they lack one characteristic on their perfect partner list. It
can be something as minor as your date having a weird laugh that makes
you decide they’re not the one for you.
Every time you do this, you miss an opportunity to meet an otherwise
great person. In a healthy relationship, you’re not going to like every
detail about your partner. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t right for
you. Therefore, make an effort to get to know them before passing
5. Don’t force yourself to stay on a bad date
Have you ever had a feeling something was wrong and no matter how much
you tried ignoring it, it wouldn’t go away? When you ignore these
feelings, things usually take a turn for the worst.
There’s nothing wrong with a few first date hiccups, but pay attention
to potential red flags. For instance, if your date is rude to wait staff
or has a nasty attitude, these are signs that things probably won’t get
better. Your first impression is usually the lasting impression, so if
someone is rude or unpleasant, it’s likely things will only get worse.
Even if your date isn’t rude, don’t guilt yourself into staying in any
you’re uncomfortable in. The first date is the perfect time to set
healthy boundaries that follow you into subsequent dates.
maybe your date shows their interest physically. If you’re
uncomfortable, let them know, especially if they’re not picking up on
your nonverbal cues. However, if they don’t stop after you communicate
your boundaries, leave immediately.
6. Always be yourself
This is one of the most important tips. People respect and appreciate
authenticity, so show up and be true to you. Even if your date doesn’t
work out, you’ll feel better knowing you showcased your actual
personality. Otherwise, your relationship is bound to fail.
Being yourself teaches you to choose quality over quantity. Say you have
a wallet with one hundred dollars. Would you rather have a hundred
dollar bill or a hundred singles? This concept applies to making a
connection. Sure, more people may like you when you cater to their ideal
mate, but being yourself will bring you closer to finding your perfect
Going on your first date can be overwhelming at any age. Remember, this
is an opportunity to get to know someone, so make an effort to showcase
who you truly are. Finding the perfect place, dressing to impress, and
having meaningful conversations are great ways to keep your crush
Also, make sure you establish
If you plan on building a relationship with someone, you need a solid
foundation. Following these tips combined with being true to yourself
will get you closer to finding the perfect partner.
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Recently, dating online is gaining much popularity, and it has
continuously been evolving. In the recent past, hosts of dating websites
have cropped up and are consistently dominating the online dating scene.
Currently, due to the coronavirus pandemic we have witnessed a rise in online dating mobile apps, which
has created a buzz on how they are transforming the sector with ease of
time in getting a match.
With a rise in popularity and use of this service by most singles, there
is an increased rise in identity theft and other under cyber-crimes.
Therefore, it’s crucial to practice **safe dating online **by following the
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young couples were chaperoned, and the parents were eager to meet their
child’s dating interests.
Even in the Victorian Era, young women were
protected, and often represented by a dating protocol. This protocol
might mean showing up to a date with flowers, gifts, and the best
Men were often depicted as having to sell their good
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diverse and unique personalities, ranging from introverts to extroverts,
we all experience the need for one another. This desire drives us to
interact with one another, most often leading to dating for young and
middle-aged people. However, the diversities in our personalities either
make other people very social and able to freely interact with others,
while those who are naturally reserved find it very hard to say hi to
the person seated next to them.
This has led to more reserved people
trying out online dating as the initial step to find those they actually
like before heading out to meet them in person.
Be it online …
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old or young. The photos for online dating are extremely important.
However, choosing the photos for your dating profile is not as easy as
you think. According to some reports, about 80% of the reasons why
people pass a potential match is thanks to their photos. The followings
are the dos and don’ts for online dating photos.
The Dating Photos Dos
Show your face
A photo of your full face is a must for the dating photos. Some dating
sites don’t even approve your profile unless you have the photo to show
your full face. You should make this headshot as the first photo so that
your matches know your look from the beginning.
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world of possibilities when it comes to finding the right partner for
you. Instead of being limited to people in the surrounding area, you may
find someone a few states away that you connect with. That being said,
long distance dating does have its own challenges.
How do you successfully navigate the potential pitfalls of having a
long-distance relationship? While these types of partnerships can expose
those involved to different challenges than they normally would face
while dating, they can be overcome with a commitment by both parties to
nurturing their bond in healthy ways.
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you will realize that it comes with a pack of challenges. It is even
worse to us members of the LGBTQ community; we have our own share of
setbacks and challenges regarding dating and relationships.
relationship is not easy, it can be fun and exciting if you follow
specific guidelines and advice. Doing so will ensure that your
relationship remains successful and positive. Here, we present the top
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Ariel. “I’ve just begun to browse dating websites,” she enthused, “and I
swear, it’s like visiting an ice cream store every time I consider
online dating. So many flavors from which to choose, but I’m a little
worried that I could wind up picking one that’s filled with nuts!”
Both women laughed at the joke but Ella admitted that she wasn’t being
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you to easily scroll around and view potential dates. Some dating sites
even utilize technology to refer people to each other who may have more
common interests that could potentially lead to lasting friendships or
relationships. While there are good sides to dating online, especially
during the pandemic, there are many bad sides to online dating as well.
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find someone and to make that relationship flourish.
It’s a long and
winding journey, and sometimes it even feels like one wrong move and
you’re done for.
But between online dating sites, and what I’m going
to tell you here to help you fix some common mistakes people make in
relationships, the process will be much easier to accomplish.
Taking Your Partner for Granted
One of the fastest ways to make your partner feel frustrated and
unappreciated is to take them for granted. Not recognizing the little
things they do for you, never saying thank you or acknowledging them,
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